When Men Seek Mental Health Counseling
Seeking help for your problems and actually talking about them with a total stranger has for the most part been a safe thing for women to do. It takes a lot for a man to actually admit he needs help and then finally pick up the telephone or request an appointment on a website. Many men will suffer in silence for a long time (sometimes years) before the problems they have unsuccessfully tried to cope with start to leak out. What kinds of situations cause men to seek the help that is needed?
Men, just like women, grow up in dysfunctional homes. Men are also physically, sexually, and emotionally abused. If the sexual abuse is by another male, the victim of sexual abuse might find himself wrestling with his own sexuality. Men also tend to show more aggression from their anger. Few men tend to understand the difference in being assertive vs. aggressive; and they do very well with formal Assertiveness Training. Men as well as women, suffer from various forms of depression; including bipolar disorder or what is many times called manic-depression; Major depression episodes; and a long- lasting set of depressive symptoms commonly known as Dysthymic Disorder. Men, like women, also suffer with many of the Anxiety disorders such as Social Anxiety Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Men also suffer with Panic Attacks and many times find themselves self-medicating with alcohol or other drugs which “numb” the emotional pain they either don’t know or don’t understand how to handle or cope.
Many men, depending on presenting problem, tend to prefer or are more comfortable with a female therapist. In my practice, I have actually had men admit to choosing my services for this very reason. It really does not matter with whom you seek therapy or counseling, just don’t allow yourself to continue spiraling down. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, more than 80% of people with depressive disorders improve when they get the appropriate treatment.
The state of your mental health affects every aspect of your life. Your mental health is as important as your physical health and if not treated can cause problems at work; with your family, with your friends; and generally cause you to not be the very best person you can be. I want that for you. I hope this helps you to at least consider stepping outside your comfort zone and getting those secrets off your chest.
"...And then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." Anais Nin